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"Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down"... read on for one of the better version that I have come across of this theme...enjoy---:)

Dear Tech Support:

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in the overall performance, particularly in the Flower and jewellery applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 un-installed many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5 and then installed undesirable programs such as: Football 5.0, Rugby 4.3 and Cricket 3.0. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs; it simply crashes the system. I've tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, to no avail. What can I do?

Signed,
Desperate
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Dear Desperate:

First keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an Operating System. Try entering the command: C:/I-THOUGHT-YOU-LOVED-ME to download Tears 6.2, which should automatically install Guilt 3.0. If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewellery 2.0 and Flowers 3.5. But remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0, or Beer 6.1.
WARNING: Beer 6.1 is a very nasty program that will create Snoring Loudly.

CAUTION: Whatever you do, DO NOT instal Mother-in-law. This is not a supported application and will crash Husband 1.0.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. I personally recommend Hot Food 3.0 and Lingerie 7.7.

Good Luck,
Tech Support
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Dear Technical Support,

18 months ago, I upgraded to Girlfriend 1.0 from DrinkingMates 4.2, which I had used for years without any trouble. However, there are apparently conflicts between these two products and the only solution was to try and run Girlfriend 1.0 with the sound turned off.

To make matters worse, Girlfriend 1.0 is incompatible with several other applications, such as LadsNightOut 3.1, Football 4.5, and Playboy 6.9. Successive versions of GirlFriend proved no better.

I tried a shareware program, Slapper 2.1, but it had many bugs and left a virus in my system, forcing me to shut down completely for several weeks. Eventually, I tried to run GirlFriend 1.2 and Girlfriend 1.0 at the same time, only to discover that when these two systems detected each other they caused severe damage to my hardware.

I eventually upgraded to Fiancée 1.0, only to discover that this product soon had to be upgraded further to Wife 1.0. While Wife 1.0 tends to use up all my available resources, it does come bundled with FreeSexPlus and Cleanhouse2005.

Shortly after this upgrade, however, I found that Wife1.0 could be very unstable and costly to run. Any mistakes I made were automatically stored in Wife 1.0's memory and could not be deleted. They then resurfaced months later when I had forgotten about them. Wife 1.0 also has an automatic Diary, Explorer and E-mail filter, and can, without warning, launch TurboStrop and Multi-Whinge. These latter products have no Help files, and I have to try to guess what the problem is.

Additional problems are that Wife1.0 needs updating regularly, requiring ShoeShop Browser for new attachments and Hairstyle Express which needs to be reinstalled every other week. Also, when Wife 1.0 attaches itself to my Saab 93 Convertible hard drive, it often crashes.

Wife 1.0 also comes with an irritating pop-up called MotherInLaw, which can't be turned off.

Recently I've been tempted to install Mistress 2005, but there could be problems. A friend of mine has alerted me to the fact that if Wife 1.0 detects Mistress 2005, it tends to delete all of your Money before uninstalling itself.

Posted by William Martin at 09:15 AM | Permalink

With the various tax incentives on offer, and increasing concern about both pollution and future fuel prices, it is not hard to see why Hybrid Vehicles are becoming more popular.

With the various tax incentives on offer, and increasing concern about both pollution and future fuel prices, it is not hard to see why Hybrid Vehicles are becoming more popular.

Most of us know by now that a Hybrid Vehicle has two sources of power; an electric motor and the good ol' Internal Combustion Engine (ICE). However, most people don't know much beyond that so let’s go deeper: let’s cut through the jargon and have a look at how Hybrid Vehicles actually work.

Hybrid vehicles are usually based on two main designs; a parallel design, or a series design.

With a parallel design, the electric motor and ICE are both connected directly to the vehicle's wheels. The ICE is used for normal driving; the electric motor provides additional power during acceleration, hill climbs and other occasions of high demand.

With a series design, the ICE is connected to a generator which is used to charge the batteries. It is the batteries which actually power the wheels via the electric motor.

Some hybrid vehicles use the series design at low speeds, and the parallel design for highway driving and acceleration.

Regenerative braking: normally the deceleration of a vehicle is wasted energy; not so with Hybrids. Hybrids can use regenerative braking to capture and store the energy lost in slowing down the vehicle as electricity. The electricity can later be used to propel the vehicle. This increases the overall efficiency of the vehicle as energy that was otherwise wasted is being stored and used again later.

Also energy that would otherwise be wasted while idling or cruising can also be stored for later use. While cruising the ICE uses a lot of fuel in proportion to the actual work going into driving the wheels. This makes it particularly inefficient at those times. To increase efficiency some of the output from the ICE is fed to a generator to charge the batteries when the vehicle is cruising or travelling downhill.

Another clever trick is that the electric motor normally used to drive the wheels can be used as the generator. This is how the regenerative braking process, and the system for charging the battery during engine idling, generate electricity. At those times the electric motor is not needed for propulsion, therefore, the ability of an electric motor to operate in 'generator' mode is utilised so that a separate generator is not required.

Vehicles which use the parallel or series design are sometimes known as Full Hybrids. Other types of Hybrids such as the Assist Hybrid and Mild Hybrid are basically just normal vehicles with a bit of electrical power supplied at crucial moments. They may also offer Regenerative Braking. However, this kind of vehicle only provides about a 10% increase in fuel economy and it is open to question as to whether the extra complexity is worthwhile.

Is the future of hybrid diesel?

The future of hybrids may very well lie in the diesel motor. Diesel engines operate at higher efficiency than petrol engines so deliver more miles to the gallon, plus they are more reliable. Their main disadvantage has always been poor acceleration, but in a hybrid this is not an issue as it can be offset with extra propulsion from the electric motor.

In addition, diesel engines can run on biofuels such as vegetable oil and the like. Such fuels are relatively clean and are not the dirty stuff often associated with diesel propulsion. Biofuels can be obtained in a sustainable way and the costs are relatively independent of oil production and oil prices.

The combination of reliability, fuel economy (prototypes have achieved over 110 mpg US fuel economy) and sustainable sources of fuel, makes the diesel-engine based hybrids not only likely, but inevitable. This will hopefully give us breathing space till fuel cell technology matures.

Should you Buy a Hybrid Vehicle?

Here are some resources to help you decide:

You can check out this comparison chart which will help you compare some hybrids with non-hybrids and a reference list of all Federal and State incentives for prospective hybrid owners.

Some topical articles; Buyers of hybrid cars get a pleasant surprise and one persons experience of the Cost of Owning a Hybrid car.

Consumer Reports have now admitted that they made an error when they said owners of hybrid vehicles would pay more than buyers of comparable gasoline-only vehicles over their lifetime of ownership. Owners of the Toyota Prius and Honda Civic hybrids do save money, the magazine now says.

If you want more in-depth technical information try What is a Hybrid Electric Vehicle? which includes a nice simple overview of hybrid vehicle design and the page Hybrid Electric Vehicles has clear technical explanations.

Wikipedia has a well written Hybrid vehicle entry which includes both technical and ecological issues.

If all that is not enough for you try the Hybrid Electric Vehicle blog which has lots of good info and links.

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Posted by William Martin at 07:26 PM | Permalink

SDonald Davis, a biochemist at the University of Texas, said that of 13 major nutrients in fruits and vegetables tracked by the Agriculture Department from 1950 to 1999, six showed noticeable declines -- protein, calcium, phosphorus, iron, riboflavin and vitamin C. The declines ranged from 6 percent for protein, 15 percent for iron, 20 percent for vitamin C, and 38 percent for riboflavin.

Fruits, vegetables not as nutritious as 50 years ago

Posted by William Martin at 04:04 AM | Permalink

Study shows babies love to help

A recent scientific study shows that babies and toddlers are naturally helpful. When the researcher performed a ordinary tasks in front of toddlers, each of 24 toddlers eagerly volunteered help within seconds - but only if he appeared to need it. The toddlers didn't bother to offer help when the researcher deliberately pulled a book off the stack or threw a pin to the floor.

Helpful Babies

Psychology researcher Felix Warneken, of Germany's Max Planck Institute of Evolutionary Anthropology, reported these findings.

Posted by William Martin at 04:09 AM | Permalink

One of my favourite stories from around this time two years ago:

The announcement that Microsoft were developing an internet-ready portable toilet, called the iLoo, turned out to be a constipated story.

First Microsoft panned the story and tried to put a lid on it by claiming it was a hoax ... then, when the penny dropped, they got all flushed and had to admit it wasn't - it was a real project of Microsoft UK)... then they announced the techonologically-advanced portable toilet had been blocked as it "wasn't the best extension of our brand.".

It seems that Microsoft headquarters sat on the toilet. "Corporate headquarters in Redmond, Washington, looked at it and decided maybe this wasn't a good idea," said Lisa Gurry, MSN group product manager. Obviously they came to the conclusion that the toilet was a low-end product.

At least in this case Microsoft eventually came clean and did not resort to a tissue of lies. I wonder what they would have done for the toilet roll out.

Microsoft iLoo

Posted by William Martin at 05:52 PM | Permalink

Ever wondered where the money goes in million-dollar budget movies?

Here is a copy of the 80 page budget from Night Shyamalan movie The Village.

Posted by William Martin at 09:09 AM | Permalink

Here is a handy site if you need to find an excuse for something....

Posted by William Martin at 09:09 AM | Permalink

Did I Shave my Legs for This?
Am I Double Parked by the Curbstone of Your Heart?
At the Gas Station of Love, I Got the Self Service Pump
Her Teeth Was Stained, But Her Heart Was Pure.
I Fell for Her, She Fell for Him, and He Fell for Me.
I Wouldn't Take You To A Dog Fight Even If I Thought You Could Win.

For more song titles.

Posted by William Martin at 04:26 PM | Permalink

Have a happy life through understanding the secret keys to self-confidence and self-worth...

Self Confidence and Self Worth obviously have a lot to do with how well we do in life. However, what confuses the picture is that the two terms are often used as if they have the same meaning. They are really very different things.

Self Confidence is about how we relate to the world. Self Worth is about how we relate to ourselves. Naturally these two things are interlinked and one affects the other. But, they bring very different gifts and very different skills.

Self Confidence gives us the ability to make things happen in the world. It helps us set goals and achieve results. When our Self Confidence is high we attract people through our ability to get things done and 'be out there'. This makes us good talkers.

Self Worth helps us value other people for who they are (rather than what they do). It helps us build friendships and relationships based on mutual caring. When our Self Worth is high we attract people through our ability to just 'be there' for them and to be with them. This makes us good listeners.

If Self Confidence is high and Self Worth is very low then we get out of balance. It can make us tend to put on a show and feel hollow inside. If this goes to far we can end up unable to enjoy our successes. While others are giving us a congratulatory pat on the back we feel like kicking ourselves as being undeserving. When our Self Worth is low we may tell ourselves "If only they knew what I am really like".

If Self Confidence is very low and Self Worth is high then we get out of balance that way too. It can make us tend to hide out with our friends, family, or people we feel 'comfortable' (or an acceptable discomfort) around. We may walk in someone's shadow, hide behind a powerful boss, or someone who 'protects' us from the world (even if they are nasty otherwise). We may have things we really want to do with our lives (intensely so), but make excuses as to why it is OK to do nothing about.

When it comes to finding a partner, or finding a job, lack of Self Confidence or Self Worth will obviously get in the way. Self Confidence helps us establish an initial connection; Self Worth helps us relate in ways that create a healthy relationship. Self Confidence helps us meet people; Self Worth helps us make friends with them.

Without Self Confidence we have trouble creating success because we don't even try; without Self Worth we have trouble creating success because we never actually feel 'successful' no matter what we achieve (or we may sabotage our efforts out of a feeling of being undeserving).

Our Self Worth and Self Confidence can be affected by what other people say and do. However, they are also both affected by what we say and do. They are very much affected by what we decide about ourselves and our own value and what we tell people about ourselves. Ultimately it is our decision whether we feel good and happy, or not. Whatever we cultivate and whatever we tolerate is what grows.

People with a strong Self Confidence are, of course, naturally comfortable functioning in situations where confidence is what is required; but they can feel very challenged by situations where Self Worth is what is needed. People with a strong sense of Self Worth are naturally comfortable in situations where Self Worth is what is required, but likewise can feel very challenged when confidence is needed.

We often unconsciously try and find a balance by attracting people of our opposite type either at work or in relationships. This allows us to function as it gives the benefits of the other persons strengths. Yet that is really an unhappy alliance, in the long term, it is really a matter of finding the balance in ourselves.

Self Confidence can be boosted by positive affirmations like: "I am successful", "I now create great relationships", etc..

Self Worth can be boosted by positive affirmation like: "I deserve success", "I am worthy of a great relationship", etc..

People often feel awkward working on the type of issues which most affects them. If either of the above type of affirmation is a turn-off for you the chances are that is the very type of issue you need to work with. Any such discomfort soon passes and, if you give yourself a chance, you can become a healthier person by working directly on whatever of these issues specifically affects you.

Now that maybe you have a better idea of which aspect of yourself you most want to work on, I suggest checking out the Self Help section of your local bookshop and seeing what books 'call' to you. You will just know what is right for you, or you can have fun checking out some new ideas to see what fits.

Being out of balance between Self Confidence and Self Worth is a bit like having one leg much shorter than the other. If we are not careful it makes us go round in circles! If your life feels a bit circular at times then that is a very good sign you need to grow the other side of your nature.

By findind a better balance between Self Confidence and Self Worth, you can become much more effective in your life. The key is to simply understand the difference between the two and to see which one you most need to develop.

Balancing Self Confidence and Self Worth is like walking on both legs: it gives us internal balance, poise and agility. Things that seemed impossible, become easy. We can only go so far if our development is lopsided. We only get so far strengthening one 'leg' of our nature without doing something about the other.

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William F Martin offers wholistic tips and advice on dating and relationships. Check out these holistic blogs and articles or this ebooks search directory.

Posted by William Martin at 04:58 PM | Permalink

What is it about dragons which makes them so fascinating? They come up again and again in stories from many cultures throughout the world....

Dragons are often seen as fire breathing monsters. Usually they can fly. They are often magical. In stories about them they commonly sleep on a horde of gold, which they have stashed away in a cave somewhere.

Yet why would a dragon need gold? What would it do with it? It can't use it to buy things, because it does not need 'things'. It could be there is more to dragons than meets the eye.

Maybe the real reason we find dragons so fascinating is that we have one inside us.

Have you not sometimes felt like a fire breathing monster? Have you not sometimes felt like you wanted to horde something even though it was of no practical value to you? Have you never felt the urge to fly?

Perhaps all these urges come from your inner dragon waking up and trying to get your attention.

We all have a mask, which we wear in how we present ourselves to the outside world. Inside are other parts of ourselves which we don't want other people to see. Those parts are still there. They have not gone away, they are just waiting for us to find a way to express them in a healthy way.

The Dragon is a symbol of the wild and untamed parts of us. The dragon is dangerous. It is dangerous because it is true to its own nature and not to social norms.

Yet we must live in the world of social norms if we are not to be branded as outcasts. How then to honor the dragon within yet also honor our moral and social responsibilities?

Lets look at what happens to someone who does not honor to their dragon: The fire in their belly goes out (or is barely noticeable) and life goes cold and dreary. They spend their lives numbing themselves on various distractions like alcohol, drugs and TV. They have no sense of purpose, joy or creativity.

If their dragon becomes a dark dragon, with no light in it, they might become very bitter and cynical, or become super nice with no sense of themselves outside of the need to seek other peoples approval.

What happens to someone whose dragon is out of control: they become wild and impulsive. They end up without morals or scruples almost like there is something inhuman about them - which is true as they have become too much of a dragon.

The key, of course, is balance.

A healthy human being is part human, and part dragon (also partly angelic, but that is another story). A healthy human being nourishes the fire in their belly and recognizes and values the experiences which keep that fire alive. A health human being realizes that tending that fire so that it does not go out, and that it does not get out of control, is their primary responsibility.

The dragon knows this. Therefore the dragon warns us when we let the fire burn too low. It warns us through, feelings, impulses and dreams to take actions which refuel our inner fire. The dragon may even warn us through ailments, illnesses and accidents if we let things go much too far.

If you are willing to listen, and are willing to begin to be really honest with yourself, you will hear your dragon calling to you. Then you will know what to do.

If you create a healthy relationship with your inner dragon you will find many adventures ahead of you. The dragon will reward you with its gifts of fire such as: creativity, adventure, playfulness and feeling of being able to fly. You will also discover why the dragon has a horde of gold. The dragon is hording the 'gold' especially for you.

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William F Martin offers wholistic tips and advice on dating and relationships. Check out these holistic blogs and articles or this ebooks search directory.

Posted by William Martin at 04:57 PM | Permalink

Finding your inner Dragon...

It's hard to fix a problem when we don't know its cause. Yet, when it comes to relationship issues, we might be reluctant to look at the cause. Maybe we get scared about what we might find out. Maybe we blame ourselves and wonder if there is something awful about us, just because something goes really wrong on one of our dates ;).

Basic human nature is essentially good. Throughout history, most bad stuff was done by people who believed they were right. They may have been crazy to think that, but they at least convinced themselves that they were right - despite how awful they might have felt about it later.

Very few people do bad things knowing that is what they are doing and are able to feel good about it. The fact is that we feel bad about doing bad, because we are essentially good. We feel good about doing good also, because we are essentially good. That makes sense, right?

Yet, there can be this nagging doubt. Maybe there is a bit of us that doesn't always want to do good. Maybe we are trying to keep this part in check and that makes us wonder whether the part of us that wants to be bad is the 'real us'. I call this the part of myself The Dragon because it almost feels like that is what it is.

But, remember in myths and stories the Dragon sits on a 'hoard of gold'. The 'gold' symbolizes the gifts The Dragon offers us. However, it is not so much in the form of outer riches. It is immense inner wealth that The Dragon offers - when we learn how to relate to it in the right way.
When we deny The Dragon inside us we deny its wealth too. We have his hoard of gold inside us yet it inaccessible and becomes useless to us. This makes us 'needy' of other people. It can make is too dependent on others for nourishment and support. We end of 'sucking' on others when we really would rather feel more 'giving'.

How can we tap in to the power of The Dragon?

The Dragon lives in a 'cave', so first we have to go to that cave. We need to pull back from the world a little and go on an 'inner quest'. This inner quest leads us to the sources of nourishment inside ourselves.

This does not mean we have to change a thing in the outer world. We can still do the laundry, do our email, talk to people, hold down our job and so on.

What is means is that we stop 'leaning' on other people so much. When we feel 'needy' and 'wanting' of someone rather than doing the usual things (whatever they are for you) we pull back and wait a little bit.

We just let ourselves be 'needy' for a while and see where that inwardly leads us rather than looking for answers outside. The feeling will take us to a sense of something we want. We may think we know what we want already, but if we follow that feeling - in that moment - we may find that what we really want surprises us.

At first we might find a certain amount of anger inside of us, or even an a lot of rage, and our Dragon may need to 'blow fire' for a while till it it ready to quiet down a bit.

If we kindly ask ourselves 'Why do I want that?' even to the most obvious wants we get deeper into our inner cave. We may find that what we really want is covered by things believe we 'should' want, rather than what we actually want.

This one of the golden gifts The Dragon offers you: the simple truth about the unexpressed feelings about what we really want. Later it also begins to offer you the abilities to make things happen, but first you must accept the truth. It does not work the other way around. Your abilities only arise as you truly accept your need of them.

Once we have a sense of what we truly want, we can then hold that feeling. We can hold it as if is something precious, for that is what it truly is. It is part of us. It is not something we ought to discard, or get rid of as soon as possible - tempting as that may be... It is important to hold the feeling rather than trying to escape from it. When we hold the feeling we can use it as fuel to do the inner part of creating what we want.

We can then start to move to the feeling of, 'What would it be like to have that need met?'. What would it really feel like. Where would we be? What would be the look on our face?

As we hold in ourselves how it will feel to have that need met something very interesting happens. It awakens in us the creativity, the ideas and the things we need to do to make it happen. It may be that later we want to visualize, and write or say affirmations to reinforce this process.

We may get ideas of courses we want to take, books we want to read, places we want to go and so on. We can later explore theses things and see where they take us. They may take us to either a fulfillment of a need, or a deeper sense of what we need. Both are good. For it is not about running away from our needs, but of being able to be with them.

"What is different?", you may wonder. Well, rather than this being an outer desperate search it is an inner quiet search. Yes, this can lead to outer action, but the action then comes from a sense of creating rather than sense of desperation. We are standing on our own two feet and moving without such a sense of wanting to lean on others.

When we connect with our deepest needs we often find that we have the resources inside ourselves to meet them and don't really 'need' other people as much as we thought. We then have more to give. And, guess what happens? Other people pick up on that. Does that make us more attractive? You bet it does!

In doing this we transform the consuming fire of The Dragon into a life giving force that helps bright light and warmth into our lives. We find that our needs our really precious gems that lead us to knowing ourselves better. We find that we have previously untapped gifts, skills and abilities that help us improve our own lives and the lives of those around us.

When we stop earnestly searching for what we want 'out there' we can then start searching inside ourselves. That leads us to the resources we already have inside us to create a deeper and more fulfilling life. The ancient sages have said it for a long time - well, from ancient times at least - that the answers are inside us. Maybe they are right and we ought to give it a try.

Maybe then we will attract the one we are looking for, or perhaps even find we don't really need them so much as we thought. After all we have a The Dragon to take care of and The Dragon is taking care of us...

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William Martin offers wholistic tips and advice on dating and relationships. Check out these holistic blogs and articles or this ebooks search directory.

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You should never kill a dragon, or trust someone who would...

Sounds ridiculous to say that, "Every Relationship is a Fairy Tale." does it not? Yet if we look closer we may find out that it is true. We may also find that we get a clearer understanding of how to make our relationships work better.

The thing about fairy stories is that although they are completely fictional; they are also completely true! It all depends on how we look at them. They are true because of what they tell use about human nature.

Think about this. Have you ever met someone who is a 'Princess' who did not have a Dragon lurking around inside her somewhere? The same goes for a Hero. Don't the Heroes we meet not also turn out to have Dragons inside them too?

I don't mean this in a cynical way. On the contrary, a wise understanding of this can help us to create healthier relationships. Wisdom makes a better choice than cynicism.

Fairy stories are really representations of different parts of what it is to be a human being and they illustrate what happens if some of them get out of hand. Every character needs a chance to play its part for us to be able to create healthy relationships.

From this way of looking at things; everyone has a Dragon, a Hero, a Princess and King (and so on) inside them. It does not matter whether we are male or female all these parts are in us. It is just that some will be more active than others depending on our personality and physical gender.

There are no real 'villains' in the story, because to be healthy we need all the different parts - including the Dragon.

The Dragon is not 'bad' and the Hero is not 'good'. An overzealous Hero may be constantly trying to kill their inner Dragon for the sake of 'beauty and innocence' as represented by the Princess. However, the Dragon offers its own powers, insights and abilities. It gives us a fire in our belly and without it our passion for life goes cold.

Think about what happens when a Hero kills the Dragon and marries the Princess. Whose Dragon did he kill? If he killed his own, what kind of lover will he be? Not much of one, I would suspect.

If it is her Dragon that has been killed (in the story they often have both conspired to do so) what will that do to her passion for life? Our Hero would be better off with the Scullery Maid as a wife. She knows how to 'tend a fire' - and not just in the kitchen. (Perhaps the Scullery Maid is friends with her Dragon).

Would a Hero marry a Scullery Maid? One who kills Dragons wouldn't. But, one that understood the role of Dragons might. He would be more likely to love a woman, and be there for her, through the 'drudgery' of daily chores. A healthy man will not be offended if her hair gets in a mess, or her 'clothes become tattered and bare'. He would help her rather than be off fighting needless causes.

If you are looking for a Princess, next time you find one, ask yourself, 'OK, I see the Princess - but, where is the Dragon?'. If you are looking for a Hero, and you find one, try 'OK I see the Hero, where is the Dragon?'.

Many people don't do this and then wonder why the Dragon suddenly sneaks up on them out of the blue! Or, they have held back their own Dragon so long it comes roaring out and becomes 'The Terror of all the Land'.

Remember the Dragon is not really bad, it is just needs to be given its rightful place. When you know where the Dragon lives, and a bit about what it is like, you are beginning to get to know the whole person. They are not really the Dragon, any more than they are really the parts of themselves they are more comfortable showing. They are really all of it and more.

Many men try to kill their Dragon when they meet a woman they really like. A man may be tempted to disowns parts of himself and become especially Nice. He tries to win her with flowers, gifts and compliments. The woman may wonder what happened to the interesting guy she was starting to like, as he has suddenly been replaced by a rather gushy 'Hero'.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with flowers, gifts and compliments (it might even work with a Princess). It is just better when they are an expression of what the relationship actually is rather than how one person would like it to be. It is better to be authentic than to put on a show. That's why some women end up with a mean guys. His Dragon may be a bit wild, but at least its not dead!

On the other hand, we have probably all met people whose Dragon goes on the rampage at the least provocation. Usually this happens when we people have lost hope in finding their Hero or in finding their Princess. Ironically, it is because they are unwilling to love the Dragon in themselves, or in others, that their own Dragon gets out of hand. They expect other people to be 'too perfect' in an overly nice way.

After all, that is what the various parts of us need. We may find it easy to love the Princess, or the Hero. Can we learn to love the Dragon too?

I suspect that what we need from each other is help in expressing our own Dragon in healthy ways. To be able to see the other person at their 'worst' (or even at their most magnificent) and stand in our Hero with courage and love for the relationship's sake. When someone we care for gets a bit wild, or hides in their cave hoarding their jewels, can we stay confident in knowing that the other person is just finding their way to a more balanced sense of themselves?

Of course, it also wise to know when something it too much for us and it would be best to get out of a particular story.

Facing another person's Dragon can be fun. A woman I had been involved with for a while once turned to me and said, "I think this relationship is doomed!". She said it very dramatically and rather than react I just started to laugh. I did not laugh in a mocking way, but I did tease her a bit about what she said and how she had said it. She looked at me oddly and headed off back to her house. The next day she came back especially to tell me how impressed she was with what I had done!

In facing a Dragon it is better to use just a light touch of the sword (Sword of Truth, Sword of Wisdom, Sword of Humor) but it is best to have a very sturdy shield! Your love and respect for the Dragon in each other is your best shield.

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William Martin offers wholistic tips and advice on dating and relationships. Check out these holistic blogs and articles or this ebooks search directory.

Posted by William Martin at 04:53 PM | Permalink

This is a really funny animation Cows With Guns by Dana Lyons with Flash animation by Bjørn-Magne Stuestøl

Be sure to click the 'Lyrics on' link on the top left for best results...

Posted by William Martin at 04:46 PM | Permalink

Check out this brilliant extreme gymnastics / street jumping video.

The action slows up in the middle, but wait a bit as it gets even better...

Posted by William Martin at 04:41 PM | Permalink

This is a spoof animation and song about legal drugs and their side effects.

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The start of life on earth (cartoon)...

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This is the famous Rescuing Hug which has been circulating. One baby twin heals the other with a hug.

Posted by William Martin at 04:37 PM | Permalink

Very good article about Spirituality in the Workplace. We define "Spirituality in the Workplace" using Seven Principles: Creativity, Communication, Respect, Vision, Partnership, Energy and Flexibility.

Posted by William Martin at 04:30 PM | Permalink